Sunday, October 20, 2013

ERIK ERIKSON

 
The Eight Stages of Psychosocial
 
 
 
Erik Erikson was a well rounded person. He studied psychoanalysis and received a certificate in that field. Later he became a teacher and had a small practice in child psychoanalysis. He met Sigmund Freud at a party and became a patient of his wife. Sigmund and Erik am sure had a lot to talk about. Erik believed in Freud's theory, but took it a step farther then what Freud did. Erik's theory covered all of life and became known as the Psychosocial crisis stages. Erik went on to write many books and won the Pulitzer Prize and a national Book Award for his book called Gandhi's Truth.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
THE STAGES
 
             ____NAME                                                                         AGE          

 
Stage 1  Trust vs. Mistrust                                                     Birth to one year
 

The infant will develop a trust with it's mom and dad and feel like the world is a safe place. An infant that doesn't develop that trust because the mom will show constancy or give the infant an secure feel then the infant will show signs of thinking that world is an unstable place and have fear.
 


Stage 2 Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt                                 Early childhood  Toddler

 
 
Having control is the main focus on this. Erik feels that toilet training is the best way to accomplish this. A child feels they control their choice of toys, food and clothing. When a child completes this then he feels a sense of control, secure and confident. Those who don't feel a sense of inadequacy and self-doubt.
 
Stage 3 Initiative vs. Guilt                                                    Preschool



Children beginning to take some control and use their power in directing play and interacting with others. A child that has completed this task should become a leader or will have good leader skills. A child that has trouble in this task will likely become one that has issues of doubt and no initiative.





Stage 4  Industry vs. Inferiority                                            Early school approximately age 5 to 11




Children begin to build their pride in what they do or accomplish though being socially interacting. Children that are driven or encouraged to do good build confidence in their abilities. Children that don't receive that encouragement being to doubt their abilities.










Stage 5 Identity vs. Role Confusion                                        Adolescent 














Children begin to develop an independence and direction. Children that are encouraged to do this will come out with strong independence and control. Children that don't get the encouragement will become confused and unsure about themselves.



Stage 6 Intimacy vs. Isolation                                               Young adult


This is when young people begin to explore relationships in their lives. Erikson said that it was important that people develop committed relationships with other people. The ones that are successful at doing this will have relationships that become secure and lasting. The ones that don't develop a committed relationship tend to deal with depression and loneness.





Stage 7 Generativity vs. Stagnation                                      Mid-adult 


This is a stage of focusing on our career and family. The ones that accomplish this stage will feel that they contributed to the world and their community. The ones that don't accomplishes this stage will  feel unproductive and uninvolved in the world.






 
Stage 8 Integrity vs. Despair                                                    Late adult




This stage is about looking back on our past life. The ones that can look back and are proud of their life will feel a sense of accomplishments. The ones that can't look back and feel good about their past life will feel a sense of failure.      
 
 
  
 
 


 

  

Thursday, October 17, 2013

The Ecological Model And Me

MESOSYSTEM
 
 CHURCH
There are two domains that held a strong connection during my adolescence years. Lets start with the least of these and that was church. Not sliding church or saying that it is not important, just saying that it was not number one as far as the strongest. Church was a good connection for me as some of my friends went there while I was going there. We grew up together and kind of look out for one another in school. This was not a big church, but there was about seven or eight of us around the same age. At one time there was a pastor that took time out for the young people and would sit down and talk to us and would answer any questions that we would have. Mom and dad still goes to this church. 
 
     

       Young people leaving churches

This is so true because at 16 I started to get out of because it was boring and did not appear to a teenager. 



FAMILY
 
The most important connection that I had growing up would have to be my family. We was a close net family till my grandmother past away. We would get together ever so often and spend time together. That was something that I look forward too. As I got older and able to drive I would go to South Carolina by self to see my cousins. When I needed someone to talk to I could always count on family. One of my cousins was a little younger than I was, but we were very close to each other. I had her back and she always had mine. She was the only one that came to me on my first wedding day and ask if this was what I really want to do. She told me that I was crazy for doing this and that it would not last longer than a year. She was close to being right. It lasted for 18 months. When she was having trouble in her life I was the one that she came to for help. We have grown apart over the last 10 years. We still talk, but not like it use to be. The other part of this strong connection is mom and dad. No matter what I can call on them even today and they would do whatever they needed to do to help or standby me or my immediate family. I am very lucky to have a great family and a great wife and kids that are always there for each other.
 
 
Question:

What do people do when they don't have a family to call on or even friends that they are close enough to trust that they can count on?
 
 



MY ADOLESCENCE YEARS

Life is Good
 
 

My adolescence years were good for the most part. I have great parents that were very supportive of me and my decisions. My decisions were not always the best, but mom and dad always stood by me. They were strict when they had to be, but the one thing that I can say is that they were very structured. I knew my limits and I still tried to push them as any adolescence would. Altogether it was a great time in my life. Did a lot of things good and bad that most people would not even think about doing.


MY BEST MEMORIES   
 
 
I have several good memories being a teenager. One of the best memory I have is the time that I made the Babe Ruth all star team. That was a shock that I made that team when I was 14 years old. Most of the team was made up of 15 year olds. We won the district and regions and played in the state finals that year. Later that year I got my drivers license and a Toyota pick up truck. That was the start of many fun times in my life. I was 16 and had a truck and was ready to go cursing on Friday and Saturday nights. What fun we had running around as a teenager. No cares in the world but sports, girls and rock n roll. As teenagers in Morristown we had a rout that everyone would curse on the weekend. We would go from the east end of town from what was at that time Sky City to the west side of town to a sinking rink called Twilight. There was so many cars that it would take 45 minutes to an hour just to circle the sinking rink. Another best memory of that time would have to be the drag racing. They just built the west industrial park and there was a straight away that was just over a quarter of a mile. There would be at least one or two races every weekend. We would start racing and the law would show up and everybody would scramble. My friend had a 69 Nova with a 427 big block that would flat move on in the quarter. Good times and a lot of fun.
 
 
MORE GOOD TIMES IN THE LATER TEENS

 Around my 17 birthday I went to my first rock concert. It was a great show I got to see Marshal Tucker and 38 special at the Knoxville Civic Coliseum. From that point on I became a concert junkie. I had the privilege of seeing some of the top names in rock. My most memorable show was the 1982 Ozzy Ozbourn diary of a madman tour. The stage was like a castle and Randy Rhoads, the lead guitarist was killed the next day in a plane crash. One of the wildest show that I got to see was Judas Priest and Kiss on the same bill. I would have to say that Ted Nugent was the loudest show that I ever attended. The best all around show for music and performance would have to be REO Speedwagon. I have seen them five times over the years. These are memories that I will always cherish for the rest of my life.
 
 
 
                   1982 Ozzy concert footage  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Worst Memories
 
 
I really don't have many memories that are that bad. The worst memory that I have from a teenager's stand point was when I found my grandmother dead. She was seventy-six years old and had congestive heart failure. She had just gone to bed and I need the heating pad. I went into her room and she would not answer me so I turned on the light and saw that she was not breathing. I know that it was quick and she did have to suffer for a long time. A funny story that was my worst memory for awhile, but now I can look back and laugh about it. this happened my sophomore year in high school. Two of my friends and me decided that we were going to the drive in that show xxx rated movies. Well you know that teenage boys have to have their beer and liquor. This was I night that I had way too many. After we left the movies we stopped at McDonalds where all the kids hung out. I was so messed up that I didn't really know where I was. I could smell the fries and wanted some of them. As I was ordering the fries I felt the need to pee so I unzipped my pants and pee on the counter at McDonalds in front of a cop. Needless to say I got a free ride in the cop car and mom and dad got the phone call. Wasn't a good day or two around the house, but everything work out for the good.





A SUPPORTIVE FAMILY
 
 I was very lucky that I had the mom and dad that I had. They was always there for me when I needed someone to talk too. Even when I did crazy thing or went to crazy places they stood by me. They raised me in church and I knew right from wrong, but I needed to do my own thing and I did. There was I time that I had some adults saying that I was a devil worshipper, because I had long hair and listen to heavy metal music. Mom and dad stood by my side and told them people to mind their own business. Mom and Dad hated the music that I listen to but they wasn't going to let somebody jump on their kid. I can say that I was blessed to have the parents that I have.            
     
 
Here is an interesting article that is good in content with some interesting feedback with it.
 
 
 
 
WHAT CHANGE WOULD I MAKE
 
If I could make any changes to my adolescence years I would have change the fact that I didn't try hard enough in school. I didn't realize how important school was at the time I was in school. There is one other thing I would defiantly not do and that is get married at the age of 17. That marriage was done out of the fact we were getting out of school and it seem like the a fun thing to do because we could stay with each other and party and not have to deal with parents. Outside of those few things there is nothing that I would change except going to more concerts and go into the coast guard which that is what I should have done.



 
 
QUESTION:   


Wonder how different my life would have been if I had followed though with my baseball and went to college and did the try outs with the Cincinnati Reds like they wanted me too. The other question is how different would things be if I had went into the coast guard.

Thursday, October 3, 2013

Putting the "I" in IQ






Rating myself on the Gardner's Multiple Intelligences.
One being the lowest and five being the highest.
 
 
              Linguistic - 2                                                                                   Interpersonal - 5
 
              Spatial - 1                                                                                        Intrapersonal - 4
 
 
 
 

 
             Logical-mathematical - 4                                                                Naturalist - 4
 
             Musical - 2                                                                                      Spiritual/existential - 4
 
                                                                      Body-kinesthetic - 5      
 
 
 
This article in the Washington Post tells how some professors want to discount Gardner's theory and gives his response to their criticism. I liked Gardner's commit in the 7 paragraph. I think his statement is very true. you have to make learning fun for kids.   
 
 
 
 
Examples of my two highest ratings:
 
 
 
Interpersonal
 
 
 I gave myself a 5 on interpersonal, because I feel that I can read a person's mood. My wife will sometimes call me a psycho, because I try to figure out her moods. I like reading peoples expressions just to see if I can understand what is going on in the world. If you sit around in a public place and watch the way people carry their self you will see all types of moods. I get accused of people watching when we go to the mall. Christmas time is the best time to people watch.
  
 
 
 
Body-kinesthetic
 
 
I gave myself a five on body-kinesthetic, because of all the sports that I played my entire life. I stated playing baseball at the age of five. the last game of organized ball came at the age of 42. If I could find the time I would still be playing. I love the game of baseball, so now instead of playing I am coaching a 9 and 10 year old team. Baseball is not the only game that I played growing up. I played football till I was a junior in high school. I gave up football to focus on baseball. I love the trill of competition. I personally think that competition is good for a young person. I believe that sports gives a young person advantage in life. Sports will help kids understand how important it is to work together. I think kids need to learn this, because this world is full of self-centered people.
    
 
 
 
QUESTION:


I wonder how many people would look at their lives different and try to be more out going in what they love to do after taking the Gardner's test?